Mind Frames

roles people play

When as nurse, mentor, or saviour, I am in charge and accountable. I am custodial, care-giving, rescuing; so please, seek my advice or favour.

When a coach, judge, or boss of you, I’m in charge and you’re accountable. I am directive, controlling, critical; so ask me what I want you to do.

When as partner, teammate, or friend, we are equals in charge of ourselves. I am cooperative, curious, sensitive; so ask for my interests or opinion.

When a patient, subordinate, or guest, you, as one in charge, account for me. I am submissive, compliant, needy; so wrap facts with gentle clarity.

When as rival, enemy, or competition, you are no way in charge of me. I am oppositional, adverse, defiant; so let the rules do all our talking.

About Me

Roger Kenyon was North America’s first lay canon lawyer and associate director at the Archdiocese of Seattle. He was involved in tech (author of Macintosh Introductory Programming, Mainstay) before teaching (author of ThinkLink: a learner-active program, Riverwood). Roger lives near Toronto and offers free critical thinking and character development courses online.

“When not writing, I’m riding—eBike, motorbike, and a mow cart that catches air down the hills. One day I’ll have Goldies again.”